The most common terminating factor in a romantic relationship being comfortable.
Couples claim that it is during this phase that the spark they once had with their partner is no longer as strong as before.
As a consequence, they have to reinvent and come up with new ways to maintain their interest for each other.
It is during this phase that you’re no longer as eager to answer your partner’s call or text, you’re way past impressing your partner, and you no longer exert an effort to look good. And not having sex means having a full 8 hours of sleep.
What affects communication during the comfort phase?
The following are the top reasons why communication can potentially suffer during the comfortable phase of a relationship;
Adjustments
Knowing your partner completely opens your eyes to a lot of things and you arrive at certain realizations.
This is when you start to ask yourself if this person is someone that you’d want to spend more time with. You start to assess if the relationship is worth keeping especially when conflicts start to come your way.
So basically, you go through an adjustment phase or transition.
Once the excitement has died down, it’s time for you to adjust to the whole idea of knowing this person completely and adapting to his/her habits, attitude and personality.
This can affect the communication process because being sweet and affectionate suddenly becomes an effort.
Doubts and Uncertainties
Knowing each other completely and spending a lot of time together enables us to identify each other’s flaws and imperfections.
When things get unexciting and stress takes over, we get to discover how our partner deals with the situation.
Everything we discover, both good and bad, becomes a reality for us. And we end up having doubts and uncertainties as everything becomes a routine process.
These feelings can affect how we treat our partners and the manner in which we respond to them.
Tolerance
As we get comfortable in our relationship, that’s when problems and conflicts enter the scene.
Trivial things like what to eat for dinner, where to buy stuff and when to go out become a cause for arguments. Jealousy and negative feelings also come into play.
Soon enough, we realize that we’re actually just tolerating each other’s habits and attitude.
That’s when issues start to pile up and talking things through becomes more complicated. We end up getting overloaded and we start to lose sight of why we decided to enter into the relationship in the first place.